Bottom line is I gave up. I stopped making an effort to plan dates. All my planning seemed too forced. It wasn't fun. So no more dates. Yes, we went to dinner or ran to the grocery store alone. Sometimes, we took a quick trip to Lowes without children on a Saturday afternoon. Only on the quiet afternoons when the kids were not acting like they might possible do something to destroy the house or one another while we were gone. But errand trips alone aren't enough to keep the love alive, if you know what I mean. I think he started to realize it too.
Saturday afternoon my husband announced 'we were going on a date'. How about that?!? I kind of thought he might have planned something because I did catch a glimpse of a ticket confirmation in the email. A comedy club. Not bad. Then he told me our dinner reservations were at 6. Um...dinner... and reservations? Well played!
We had dinner at a local Italian restaraunt. Not the best food but great wine. Over dinner I asked him if he had Yelped this place and he said yes. Be still my heart. The boy has been trained! Off to the Murrieta comedy club. We are talking big time over here. A bingo hall type room with metal chairs and VIP seating on pleather love seats with cup holders. Battery operated tea lights to call your waiter. A fine selection of Barefoot wine. My husband was in his comfort zone. The entertainment wasn't so bad. The comics were funny enough. The best part is my husband took me out. I loved that. Not sure if it was a fluke or a new leaf turned. I will reward his date for a date. And we will see where things go from there.