Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Just Keep Dating

What I am about to share is not textbook stuff. It's just simple advice I had to learn the hard way. My number one piece of advice to all married women:

Date Your Husband.

The what, when, why, where, or who preventing you from dating can be adjusted to. In my opinion, there is no excuse to not make time for your spouse. This advice comes from someone who took a 13 year hiatus from dating her husband. We averaged about 2-3 dates per year and I really think our marriage was impacted by it. In the last year, my husband and I have made dating and spending quality time together a priority. It's important at any age or stage of a relationship.

There are hundreds of excuses to not make time to date. Money is tight, no babysitter, you don't want to leave the kids, your husband works an opposite shift, you work long shifts, there is nothing to do, or you can't think of anything to do. 

I have two resolutions for you: Get creative or use Pinterest. Problems solved. You don't need a lot of money, you don't even need a sitter. You just need to spend a little time planning.

When our kids were little and we didn't have a sitter. Or I didn't want to leave them with a sitter because I was just like that. We would put the kids to bed at 8pm, one of us would go get take out, throw a blanket on the living room floor, and watch our TiVo'd episode of The Office. It wasn't much but I still smile thinking of those 'date nights in'. 

It's not about dressing up or going out. Dating your spouse is about time and attention. Any obstacles, just means you have to think a little harder or plan a little more. You can do this!

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

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  1. I 110% agree with this!!!!!!! I have been told this before and it's amazing how true it is.

  2. perfect perfect perfect advice! It's essential. :)

  3. This is great! I think a lot of people (me included) get so caught up in our day to day lives with work, kids, home, etc., we forget to "date". Great advice!

  4. I so totally agree with you! It's so important to make intentional time to spend together. <3

  5. This totally goes for folk like me who aren't married, but in long term relationships too. Thank you for sharing!!

  6. We have 3 kids and we really do need to schedule more "date" time for one another. I agree it's so important!